There have been times when all has not been good, and is all part of the complex link with life. But today, I have brought my laptop outside for the first time this year. I have fed my plants, and the vast aray of hungry birds that are seemingly part of our life in our tiny cottage, here in the heart of Leicestershire. Being able to find solace and peace has been a fundamental part of my journey, and still remains a hard balance to acheieve.
Over the past week I have applied for, been interviewed and was sucessful in a new job, and as with all jobs required a presentation. The title, Resilience.
Resilience has for many years been seen as a positive trait. One which leads people to develop skills to enable them to cope. To empower situations and simply to drive through adversity. But how and why is it necessary?
Being able to find a path when life throughs you a curve ball, is something which not everyone is able to do. Some choose to become angry, some shift the blame of their own drama onto others to make them feel better. But it is how you chose to deal with situations which will make you stand out from the others.
People admire resilience. They see strength where others are weak. But it is not always the loudest people who have the best skills. being able to find courage and to stand strong for your decisions and your beliefs will make your decisions easier. Having the power to remove yourself from the people who drag you down and having the ability to say 'no', are all crucial for your journey.
Over the last few years my secrest to resilience hasnt been different to any one elses. For me now I take the time to really decide what I want. To plan my stratagy and to focus wholehearedtly on how to get it.
Letting others drag you away from your goals and decisions prevents the drive you have created, from powering your day. So, chose to not be affected by these people.
A couple of weeks ago, I was on the verge of giving up, of closing the doors on 'Self'. The pressure, the worry and the constant self doubt was getting too much. It was literally possessing my every thought. Even though I kept tellig myself to be patient, there is only so much I can fit into my day. Myfull time job, family demands and a fledgleing new business.
I love what I do, passionatly, I love empowering peoples lives, but I am human. I too have feelings of self-doubt. despite a large pinterest and social media following, I am not drowning in cash and really dont spend my life surrounded by amazing cars or a big house. But why am I telling you this? Good question...... to me it is important to see the real me. Hopefully you can draw your own paralells and understand that we all struggle sometimes. But what did it teach me?
Achieving your owns goals takes much longer than you think. You can work your ovaries off (if you pardon the expression) and worry, but it will happen, eventually. The only way you fail is if you give up, and the focus should be on what you can control each and every day. Finally, the last and most important point..... other peoples apparent sucess are not markers for your own failure.
So when you are lacking in resilience, take a moment to think about this beofre you throw in the towel!