THERE were so many times where I wanted to life my way, and just couldn't. Being controlled by times, dates and people is difficult but you have to find a way through the minefield. Defying the social expectation is even harder. But more importantly in the end, it made me happier to just be Me!
WHEN you are young, life and the world evolves around you, your family and the people around you. It felt for me, like there was a path. One path, chosen by my teachers and my family and that was the direction I was supposed to go along. Like my 'yellow brick road' had already been layed. As I grew to adulthood, I tried hard to buck away from the trend. To not follow where I had been directed, and to free myself of what I felt those chains to be. But eventually, I fell back into life, and all of the trimmings. Somehow I had lost my my way. What if my life didn't follow the path that had been laid out? What if I was different?
FINDING words to tell people that you felt different to others, or more complex, gets harder the more people are dependant on you. Until one day, things happen and there is no going backwards. Its hard, especially when you don't follow where you were grown up to be.
SOCIAL norms are changing, evolving into a complex interweave of passion, power and friendship and the wake that leaves behind can be hard for all involved. An example is the idea of one job for life, seems crazy now. The role of the traditional family has been altered and looking around the idea of the traditional family is bending quickly. A home can be on water, on wheels or made of literally anything - those social boundries are shifting.
LIVING the life you want to live involves thought and compassion. It requires hopes and dreams as with any life, but is about accepting who you are socially and how you fit. Importantly, for me, it isn't how you fit into the world, but how you bend the world to fit what you need.
IT can be so hard to see where you fit in, to map where you are in the world, but taking inspiration from others is key to figuring out where you are in the world, and how you interweave with the bigger picture.
FOR me, I stopped expecting the magic answer, a direct path to where I should go. Now my path lies with every step on my own 'yellow brick road'. One step at a time, and each journey as it comes.